[from the archives] My repentance and freedom from my self-centered ways of being motivated and controlled by my husband’s accusations and anger brought even more changes to our lives. (See the previous posts for the beginning of this story, starting here) I realized that since I had been receiving Tim’s blame and believing that I… Continue reading Available to be Parented
Category: Posts by BARBIE POLING
Her Process Toward Freedom
The other day I was sitting at my computer working when I heard my daughter calling from my room with a question in her voice, “Mom? There’s a bird in your room….. ??” She said she had gone in my room to get the Costco card, when she saw a cute little bird decoration on… Continue reading Her Process Toward Freedom
No Longer Blind
[from the archives] My freedom from selfish ways of relating with my husband, Tim (that I’ve been recounting over my last few blog posts starting here), opened my eyes to see his behavior in a different light. I became able to see how hurtful his relational habits were to the children. He was not treating… Continue reading No Longer Blind
Not My Fault??
[from the archives] This post is a continuation of a story that begins with this post, Peeling Bananas in Secret. The previous part of this story is here: Dead to Sin All the things that I learned about my relationship with my husband that I’ve been recounting in my last few blog posts happened over… Continue reading Not My Fault??
Dead to Sin
[from the archives] “The Lord has a plan for you to cooperate with Him in bringing His ways of love into your family, but you can’t hear Him or even begin to cooperate with Him as long as you are a slave to your own addiction to what you are trying to get from them.… Continue reading Dead to Sin
Slaves to Sin or to Righteousness?
[from the archives] In continuing my story from my previous blogs, it was only a few days later when the Lord spoke through my conscience again about the way I was habitually relating with my husband. I had an event that day that took me away from home before dinner and before my husband got… Continue reading Slaves to Sin or to Righteousness?
Wrong Thinking?
[from the archives] In my last post, Peeling Bananas in Secret, I was talking about the way we could be letting others control us. I used to let my husband control me. I remember when the Lord first spoke through my conscience to me about the way I habitually related with my husband. I was… Continue reading Wrong Thinking?
Peeling Bananas in Secret
[from the archives] Is there someone in your life that you allow to control you? I remember when my Josiah was two and a half. He controlled me. He didn’t like me to peel his bananas. He was incapable of peeling his own bananas, but he didn’t want me to peel them for him. If… Continue reading Peeling Bananas in Secret
Having Their Hearts
[from the archives] I’ve been blessed to bring back to recollection so many wonderful memories of the Lord’s work in our lives as I wrote the last several blog posts (starting here). I’ve been overwhelmed with gratitude at remembering the goodness of our God! Thank you Lord! I’ve been giving a picture of my process… Continue reading Having Their Hearts
Love Empowers Heart-level Connection
[from the archives] The events of my last few blog posts (starting here) brought a complete change in Phillip. Before I began to meet with him each morning and love on him Phillip was closed, emotionally cold with an undercurrent of anger, resistant, willing and able to comfortably lie to me, isolated both physically and… Continue reading Love Empowers Heart-level Connection