[from the archives] This post is a continuation of a series starting here. When we stop allowing others to control us, often the controlling person doesn’t like the new relational arrangement. The controlling person frequently ends up escalating the controlling behaviors in order to put the relationship back into their comfort zone. This happened for… Continue reading Escalating Control
Author: BarbiePoling
Blame Confronted
My husband had agreed that I could tell him the truth by showing him how he was untruthful in blaming others for things they didn’t actually do, as I wrote about in my previous blog post. The next day I was on the look out for a very clear example to show him so that… Continue reading Blame Confronted
Telling the Truth??
[from the archives] (My story is continuing on from my previous posts beginning here) Throughout the summer of 2006, my husband and I got together every now and then to visit with Jim and Marilyn Howshall. Among other things, we discussed plans to form a once a week discipleship group with other couples. Each time… Continue reading Telling the Truth??
Becoming Objective and Accurate
[from the archives] Over the past several blog posts I’ve been remembering and recounting how the Lord set me free from allowing my husband to control me. I began this part of my story with Peeling Bananas in Secret. The situations I’ve been recounting happened in February, March and April of 2006. Over the next… Continue reading Becoming Objective and Accurate
Available to be Parented
[from the archives] My repentance and freedom from my self-centered ways of being motivated and controlled by my husband’s accusations and anger brought even more changes to our lives. (See the previous posts for the beginning of this story, starting here) I realized that since I had been receiving Tim’s blame and believing that I… Continue reading Available to be Parented
Her Process Toward Freedom
The other day I was sitting at my computer working when I heard my daughter calling from my room with a question in her voice, “Mom? There’s a bird in your room….. ??” She said she had gone in my room to get the Costco card, when she saw a cute little bird decoration on… Continue reading Her Process Toward Freedom
No Longer Blind
[from the archives] My freedom from selfish ways of relating with my husband, Tim (that I’ve been recounting over my last few blog posts starting here), opened my eyes to see his behavior in a different light. I became able to see how hurtful his relational habits were to the children. He was not treating… Continue reading No Longer Blind
Not My Fault??
[from the archives] This post is a continuation of a story that begins with this post, Peeling Bananas in Secret. The previous part of this story is here: Dead to Sin All the things that I learned about my relationship with my husband that I’ve been recounting in my last few blog posts happened over… Continue reading Not My Fault??
Dead to Sin
[from the archives] “The Lord has a plan for you to cooperate with Him in bringing His ways of love into your family, but you can’t hear Him or even begin to cooperate with Him as long as you are a slave to your own addiction to what you are trying to get from them.… Continue reading Dead to Sin
Slaves to Sin or to Righteousness?
[from the archives] In continuing my story from my previous blogs, it was only a few days later when the Lord spoke through my conscience again about the way I was habitually relating with my husband. I had an event that day that took me away from home before dinner and before my husband got… Continue reading Slaves to Sin or to Righteousness?